Mothers love talking about their kids. If you have kids, this comes as no surprise to you, I'm sure. I'm eager to talk about any one of my girls to anyone that will listen. Why do you think I blog? To brag about my adorable children, of course! Samantha is no exception. Even though she isn't here with me physically, I carry her around in my heart and mind daily. And just because I can't share the first time she rolled over or the face she made upon tasting green beans for the first time or any other little milestone, doesn't mean I don't want to share things from those precious 8 weeks I had with her. This includes her death and funeral.
I find that people are hesitant to talk to me about her, even though they may be curious. I think there is the fear that it is too difficult to talk about or that they will inadvertently offend me. That may be true for other mothers, but for me that is not the case. You will not offend me by asking questions, and it is not difficult for me to talk about.
If there is something you want to know, just ask! I assure you that answering a difficult question is far better than being avoided because you don't know what to say. Remember! I love talking about my kids! ;)
8 comments:
I sooo want to talk to you but I think you guys are off having fun in Idaho right now and I'm jealous! I'm not sure when you're getting home but lets chat soon!
Ok, I'm asking! When are you coming over to visit this week? :) And bringing your beautiful, sweet, living daughters with you. WE can talk about our angel Sammy to your heart's content! :)
I know what you are talking about. After my brother passed away- NO BODY dares to talk about him. They almost act as though he never lived. I understand where they are coming from- but, I am like you ASK. I won't wind up in tears every time. Luckily my immediate family talks about him every single time we are together.
wish you had posted this BEFORE your visit! i woulda loved to talk to you for hours about her. but you're right, it's just hard to know where you're at & to gage what's appropriate.
i totally see where you're coming from now. if i had a big trial in my life & i would want to always talk about it & not let it be an elephant in the room. good for you for clearing the air :)
miss you guys lots & lots.
and that's why I LOVED our talk and visit!! It was so good to see you and hear the story. I was so relieved to see you doing so well and talking about her... we as mothers do LOVE to brag and talk about our ADORABLE kids!! Love you.. call me when your here next time!!! ;)
I remember the same thing after my Dad died. Sometimes it was really hard and sometimes I may cry when I talk about it still but it is harder to be avoided. I miss you.
I can't imagine what your loss is like, but I do know what you mean. I'm with Paige on this one, when I lost my step-mom and people avoid you it makes things weird. I feel that it almost makes it better when people just say what they want, we can talk about it. I might cry but its prob not about your question, just about the memories.
Yes. This is exactly how I feel. Even though it's a little hard getting over that initial hurdle when people say "do you have kids?" And I have to think how I'm going to answer that, which if I DO answer it it's usually "We have a little baby, but he passed away".. But once I know people know we had (have) a son... it iritates me more, much more, knowing they never ask me about him... that's what hurts the most, then it feels to me like he was a nobody and people don't think he was a real person or something.
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